Even though Tom and I are fairly certain we will maintain our choice of the group we visited last Saturday for adoption; I like to be thorough and therefore have left doors open. As I have continued reviewing sites and adoptive parent profiles, I have come across some where the people admit they could have children of their own, but are choosing private adoption. I know this is their right and they are allowed to do that, but I can't help but feel a bit upset by this.
Here we are, unable, but desperately wanting a child. We know that we are likely going to have to wait a long while to be matched and have one of our own through the gift of another, and yet, someone who could procreate, is taking another baby off the market from those of us left with basically no other options. I understand this is completely unfair of me and I have no right to judge, but I still feel upset by this.
I also think I don't understand it. If you are choosing adoption because you want to help, why wouldn't you go through the foster-adopt system and take children who are otherwise abandoned? Why spend money to get a newborn that others are waiting for?
Definitely something I need to think and pray about, but first needed to get it out there. So, thank you for listening!
In other news, day 1 of both Tom and I not eating out at all, but instead making our three meals (separately since he started EMT school), went splendidly! I know it isn't Tom's favorite thing, but we got through the first day and I am hoping we can continue long term. Definite money savings and healthier eating!
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