I am a huge fan of research...I research just about anything and everything I can. New car...months of research. Reviews, specs, models, options, test driving, you name it, I did it. I once had a full spreadsheet of stats for folding knives before I could make a decision on which I would purchase. It may seem a bit excessive, but I like to be well-informed.
Enter the thought of adoption and say goodbye to the ability to know everything that is going to happen or how it will turn out. And that combined with what will probably be the most important decision of our lives. Talk about a bit of stress. It is only day one and we are already feeling it (less so than excitement)!
Tom and I have both spent the better part of the last couple days, while not working, researching. What are our options? Which options are best? What is the trade off? What things are certain (let me tell you, very few) and which things are we just going to have to roll with. What seems clear to me in this world of non-biological parenting, the more certainty you want, the more it will cost you.
I think right now we are leaning toward Foster to Adopt, at least to try at first and see if it can work for us. First, it is actually affordable. As in, we could potentially get a baby/child and still have money to take care of it! :D Second, I think this option is actually more helpful to the child and society. This is taking a child that would otherwise likely bounce between foster homes until they are old enough to leave the system.
However, the downsides to this option are a bit daunting. So, we are still looking into other options, just in case. We are now signed up for some intro courses to begin and prepare ourselves and our home for this new addition. I'll do my best to withhold judgement until we know more facts!
Today I feel it more than when it started, this is the right path for us. I really do want us to raise a child. It is amazing and scary and exciting all at once. I just hope we make the right decisions and don't fall into some of the scary pitfalls and potential issues with adopting.
Here's to hoping and praying!
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